When Family Hurts You… and Acts Like Nothing Happened
I recently came across a question that really stuck with me.
What would you do if your family disowned you over something, caused a lot of hurt, and then later acted like nothing ever happened… no apology, no accountability?
And not only that — they just tried to go right back to normal like nothing ever happened.
And honestly… that hit close to home.
Because I’ve been in a very similar situation before.
Not over a relationship, but over a disagreement that hurt me really, really badly.
And the biggest thing for me?
I didn’t just want acknowledgment…
I needed it.
💭 Why Some People Avoid Accountability
From my experience — and even talking through things with my therapist — sometimes people ignore situations like that because they haven’t dealt with their own stuff.
It’s easier to move on and pretend it didn’t happen than to sit in the discomfort of what they did.
And sometimes… they try to just go back to normal.
Like nothing ever happened.
Like you’re supposed to just move on too.
🌋 When It Keeps Coming Back
In my situation, things didn’t just disappear.
It kept coming up.
Over and over again.
Because you can’t just reset a relationship without addressing what broke it.
Little things would trigger it, and before I knew it, we were right back in that same place.
Until one day… it was like a volcano.
Everything came out.
🤍 The Apology
Eventually, I did get an apology.
Was it perfect? No.
Was it exactly how I imagined it? Also no.
But it mattered.
Because it finally acknowledged what happened instead of pretending it didn’t.
And honestly? It helped more than I expected.
It didn’t fix everything overnight, but it did start to mend parts of the relationship.
💔 Can You Move On Without Closure?
I know some people choose to let things go to keep the relationship.
And I get that — family relationships are complicated.
But for me?
I don’t think you can truly move forward in a healthy way when someone is trying to act like nothing ever happened.
Because when it’s ignored, it doesn’t disappear… it just sits there.
Waiting to come back up again.
✨ My Honest Take
I really do feel like you need that closure to fully be okay moving forward with someone.
Not necessarily a perfect apology.
Not a long explanation.
Just something real.
Something that says, “I see how I hurt you.”
Because that’s what allows healing to actually begin.
💬 Let’s Talk
I’m really curious where you stand on this…
Would you let it go to keep the relationship?
Or would you stand firm on needing that acknowledgment first?